29 Mar GUILT!
Posted at 22:58h in Divine, Ego, Inner Goddess, Intuition, Mind, Power, Relationships, Self Love 0 Comments
Toxic GUILT is one of the hardest emotions to release as it’s intertwined with other emotions and beliefs that we often think that it’s normal to feel guilty. But as we take steps towards healing and releasing what no longer serves us, we realise that GUILT is often due to lingering patterns lodged in our subconscious. It is often hard to look at ourselves and allow the GUILT to surface as it brings shame, non-forgiveness, and sometimes hatred for ourselves.
Some of the beliefs come from our life experiences, the cumulative buildup of early childhood experiences where:
Making a mistake is a big DEAL.
Punishment/consequences for every mistake you commit.
Expectation from caretakers or myself of being PERFECT
Fear of being judged by others – looking at myself from others’ point of view
And many more
This leads to convoluted beliefs of :
I am a bad person if I am unable to make others happy.
I am a terrible human if I don’t abide by the rules, cultural traditions, or societal expectations.
To feel good about me, I must follow what others advise me as they know better, and that will keep them happy.
I am not allowed to express/think about my needs as that will make me selfish.
Despite our best endeavors, we cannot meet everyone’s or your expectations—and feel guilty, we blame ourselves and feel ashamed.
If you are willing to look deeply, you may find that the GUILT you are carrying along making you paralyzed could be related to unrelenting to yourself. With proper support and guidance, you can traverse through the darker parts identifying the root of your emotions. Embracing those emotions with honesty, vulnerability, and allowing yourself to forgive the part of you that offers resistance could lead to opening up the suppressed you that requires healing.
Few questions that can trigger the hidden weight of guilt:
What are you guilty about?
Is it something real?
Did you fail to meet someone’s expectations?
Who set those expectations on you? Are those genuine?
Did you do it on purpose? Can that situation be reversed?
Is that something you could have done differently?
These questions may help you untangle the underlying fears related to GUILT. And as you make a shift, you may realize how heavy is the baggage of GUILT being lifted off your shoulders.